Frances Ross M.Ed Counselling Psychology, SEP, MBACP. Counselling and Psychotherapy
London & Bristol

Information and Skills:

There is much information and skills provided as I begin to work with you. Here are a few samples;

Emotion and Sensation:
I explain and demonstrate how 'staying with' or allowing a sensation and/or an emotion actually dissipates the held energy around it, so that there is a feeling of expansion and relief as this bound energy discharges. I will assist and encourage you as you learn to do this, so that you become more confident and can then do this by yourself. This skill is a basic and essential one, as holding back or staying away from emotion and sensation both increases the ANS (autonomic nervous system) charge and also causes lack of blood flow and oxygen to the held part(s) of the body, thus causing additional symptoms. We need our emotions as they are connected to energy flow and impulse, and are the drivers behind successful movement and mastery in the world. Welcoming them and allowing them within your own felt experience creates physical and mental health.

Validation of an emotion(s) by yourself and myself together, is like going back in time to receive the soothing and comfort a child needs to discharge the shock of say a loss or an accident, and to feel met and understood in that moment. That someone else is understanding and feeling it with them and showing them this is how to be with it. The adult thus validating the child's experience moderates the physiological intensity which is essential for the child's still developing nervous system. The emotion is normalized and causes expansion and relief in the whole system.

Contraction and Expansion:
This is a basic and essential physiological aspect which I am working with all the time in our sessions. I'm looking for ways we can move towards softening and expansion in the muscles and tissue. Take for example the breath, fear or shock results in holding the breath and then also holding in the jaw shoulders and diaphragm. This of course causes contraction, lack of blood and energy flow and over time chronic symptoms. Contraction is normal and necessary and if it results in successful action and the shock or fear is released then the person moves back to expansion. This is part of a very natural phenomena (like the waves on a beach), and we are returning the system to normal, so there is a fuller breath and normal rhythm of expansion and contraction. Chronic pain and other syndromes lessen due to the increased blood/oxygen and energy flow and the body gains a sense of wholeness and well-being rather than fragmentation.

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On this page I will answer a question regarding skills and information once a week. You can write in through the contact page. Please keep this to no more than 3 or 4 sentences, and I will also reply briefly. If your question does not get answered immediately it may be that a lot of questions came in at one time.

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